There is No Spoon: You Create Your Own Reality
I'm assuming most people have seen The Matrix. I have the opinion that it is one of the greatest films of all time. Not because of the action sequences or 90's fashion sense, but because of the messages hidden throughout the film. One that stood out to me was when Neo was talking to a child - whom we shall hence forth call Spoon Boy - that was bending spoons with his mind. Let me recreate the scene for you:
While Neo is waiting to see the Oracle, he sees Spoon Boy bending spoons with his mind. As Neo marvels at the act, the boy hands a spoon to our protagonist to allow him a try. Spoon Boy tells Neo: "Do not try and bend the spoon, that's impossible. Instead, only try to realize the truth...there is no spoon. Then you'll see that it is not the spoon that bends, it is only yourself." When I first saw this, I thought it was just some unimportant gibberish that was thrown in there to sound cool. Looking back at it now though I realize the true message that Spoon Boy was saying.
You are The Master of Your Reality
When Spoon Boy said that there is no spoon, he literally meant that there is no spoon. They are inside the Matrix, a simulation. The spoon, along with them, are just a bunch of numbers doing a fancy dance that makes it look real. If you are inside the Matrix, you can be tricked into thinking that reality is how you see it; but once you realize the truth - that everything you see is merely a perception of what you think is real - you can bend the rules, like Neo does (although I doubt you'll be bending spoons and flying like Superman, but who knows).
What Spoon Boy says, and what The Matrix as a whole is about, is an allegory about perception and reality. Most of us live in a simulation, but it's of our own construct. The "spoon" is our perception of the self, our worldview. Many times we have these preconceived notions about who we are or who we should be, based on so many outside variables (social media, social conditioning, etc.). When we realize that "there is no spoon", we wake up to the fact that our perceptions of who we are or what we should do or how something is are merely that: perceptions. When Spoon Boy says, "Then you'll see that it is not the spoon that bends, it is only yourself" he means to say that it is not reality bending, but you yourself changing your perception of what you once thought was true.
Fear is The Mind Killer
Sometimes it's also fear holding you back. Sometimes the fear comes from what we think others will think, or fear of failing at what we want most, or just fear of the unknown. So we end up telling ourselves elaborate lies that we believe so well that we consider them true.
There are many ways in which we see this: we think we should have a well paying job that others approve of, or that we need to go to college, or buy a house, or have X amount of money. It also happens more subtly with advertisements, social media, groupthink , and society in general - outside forces that are always trying to influence your behavior.
Ask yourself this: how much of your worldview is really your own? Sometimes its hard to discern the difference. I think I'm getting a bit too philosophical and preachy though, so let's stay on track.
Create Your Own Reality
What does all this mean? It means you can shape your life how you see fit. You can be the superhero of your life, flying through the skies and bending spoons - figuratively speaking of course.
Don't get tricked into living a reality not shaped by you. You can believe what people say you should do or be, or follow the beat of your own drum. As soon as you do this, you can life the live that you want.
So stop trying to bend the spoon. Realize that there is none, and bend yourself. Bend your perceptions of what is true, and make your own rules for your life. This freedom might me a little scary, but it will also open any door you want.
And at the very least, watch The Matrix if you haven't yet, because it's a great movie.